𝐀𝐧 𝐄𝐱𝐜𝐥𝐮𝐬𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐒𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐦 𝐓𝐬𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐠

Sonam Tshering’s life is a testament to resilience, redemption, and unwavering determination. Battling addiction for 27 years, he found purpose in aiding others on similar journeys. Through “Jurwa: The Change,” he provides holistic support, extending hope to those in need. In an exclusive interview, Sonam shares pivotal moments from addiction to recovery, highlighting challenges, victories, and the transformative power of his journey. His story inspires belief in overcoming adversity, turning pain into purpose, and advocating for change. Sonam’s message is clear: with courage and support, anyone can break free from addiction and embark on a path of healing.

Q: Can you share your journey of addiction and how did you got out from addiction?
A. First and foremost, on behalf of our Jurwa Centre and all the members in recovery, especially from the inclusive members, we are deeply grateful for this opportunity to engage with you and Bhutan Today. My name is Sonam Tshering, and I battled drug and alcohol addiction for over 27 years. In 2005, I sought help in rehab twice, but unfortunately, I didn’t fully commit to the program, hindering any progress. At that time, my motives were driven by external factors like pleasing my parents and seeking attention from others, rather than a genuine desire for change. It wasn’t until later that I comprehended the gravity of my actions and the profound selfishness and irresponsibility I had displayed.
Addiction is undeniably a chronic brain disease, characterized by three fundamental behaviors: compulsive, impulsive, and obsessive. Compulsive behavior ensnares us in a cycle of relentless mental torment, where intrusive thoughts dominate our minds, demanding meticulous management. Impulsive behavior compels us to act without deliberation, chasing immediate gratification down unpredictable paths fueled by spontaneity and fervor. Obsessive behavior consumes every aspect of our lives, linking happiness with the need for substance indulgence, regardless of the situation.
When it comes to quitting, it may seem straightforward with the right motivation, be it fear of losing family, facing incarceration, or confronting mortality as warned by doctors. However, maintaining sobriety presents unforeseen challenges. Life’s complexities, such as discovering betrayal or loss, can trigger relapse, highlighting the difficulty of navigating post-addiction existence.
Recovery, contrary to popular belief, is not a linear journey but a slow, demanding process requiring patience and resilience – qualities often lacking in addicts. There’s a saying in recovery circles: “Give it five minutes before the miracle happens,” accentuating the gradual nature of change. In essence, while quitting may seem like the first step, the real challenge lies in rebuilding life after addiction. It’s a journey fraught with setbacks and victories, demanding unwavering commitment and support. Yet, every step forward brings hope for a brighter, sober future.

Q: How did you Founded Jurwa-The Change Centre?
A. I’ve had the privilege of working with the Chithuen Phenday Association (CPA), alongside remarkable individuals like Tshewang Tenzin, the Executive Director. I must pay homage to my late friend, Nim Dorji, who served at the Youth Development Fund (YDF). Another friend, Ugen Doji, introduced me to the recovery program, and without his support, my journey might have been different. My journey led me to CPA, where I found acceptance and purpose. I began as an outreach worker and spent a decade there, witnessing firsthand the struggles of those battling addiction and homelessness. Inspired by their plight, I established a haven for the supportless in Paro, providing shelter and support for over 13 years. This endeavor isn’t just a passion; it’s my redemption. Addiction blinded me to the pain I inflicted on my family, but now, I seek to atone by helping others find their path to recovery. I share my story to offer hope to those who feel lost, reminding them that change is possible, no matter how dire the circumstances.
Before attempting to secure a job with CPA, I had bitter experiences. I previously tried with a prominent CSO in Bhutan but faced rejection even before stepping into the office. They relegated me to standing outside, where an authority figure dismissed any possibility of employment upon seeing me—a long-haired individual adorned with tattoos. It was a crushing moment, but my late friend intervened. The prospective employer mentioned a meager salary of 2,500, to which I agreed. However, they still denied me the job. Upon returning, the Executive Director of CPA greeted me warmly, without further interrogation. The only question he asked me was, ‘Are you willing or committed?’ I responded by emphasizing my dedication and commitment.
In 2012, while working at the grassroots level, with support from CPA and the proprietor of Galingha Resort, I founded Jurwa. Later in 2013, I wanted to express my heartfelt gratitude to the proprietor; however, I learned that they had gone to Australia. Yet, in 2012, this particular individual generously contributed Nu.100,000. Subsequently, upon learning that I was seeking donations to establish a drop-in center in Paro, they made a generous donation. With their support, I established the Drop-in Centre in Paro, entirely under the umbrella of CPA. So with that support of Nu.100,000, we purchased furniture and other essentials.
During my ten years of grassroots-level work, I personally observed numerous individuals, particularly supportless youths, on the streets. I could empathize with their situations, having been in similar circumstances myself. For example, I am from Trashigang, visiting my elder sister in Paro. However, due to my behavior and attitude, I wonder how long my brother-in-law will tolerate me. This is where Jurwa comes in. We provide support for the homeless, not just addicts and alcoholics. I have been doing this in Paro for the last 13 years. Even if someone is not an alcoholic or addict, if they have nowhere to go and we become aware of their situation, we will bring them to our Centre. I believe it’s crucial for them to have a place they can call home, even if it’s just half a home. This applies especially to destitute people, including addicts and alcoholics, as well as old people and mothers from various backgrounds. This is how the idea originated. In a way, I was indirectly committing suicide and directly harming my parents, the few individuals who loved me dearly and always wished for my betterment. Despite my torn jeans and slippers, I remain the same person. Today and tomorrow, I encounter my old friends who say I should have died a long time ago. This is my reality, my root. I am grateful for the second chance at life and the opportunity to redeem myself. I strive to connect with youth, motivating and inspiring them by sharing my experiences, demonstrating that change is possible even after wasting 27 years on the streets. If I can change, so can they.

Q: How function the Centre and what are the challenges while running the Centre?
A: We encountered a complete lack of support, leaving me on the verge of giving up and almost falling back into relapse. I had decided to quit, feeling like I had nothing more to offer. That day, I was emotionally shattered, slipping into depression and grappling with ongoing mental health issues. Self-pity and resentment began to consume me, especially towards the challenges I faced. Despite emerging from rehab with a positive outlook, running even a small center felt burdensome rather than a calling. However, we persisted, refusing to surrender despite countless obstacles.
A visit to Uma Resort, or Uma COMO, and the unwavering conviction of individuals like Madam Choki revitalized us. While small funding injections provided some relief, it was the wholehearted support of the National team that truly uplifted our spirits. Their embrace and encouragement renewed our determination. I am also grateful to individuals like Nazhoen Lamtoen for their contributions to legality. Additionally, I extend my gratitude to the Proprietor of Ghasel Construction (Tashi Tshering), the former ED of Loden Foundation (Madam Tshewang Tashi), Karma Academy in Paro, and the Youth Development Fund for their prologue and unwavering love and support for Jurwa.